High conflict parents with narcissistic/borderline patterns
of behavior will do anything to win custody
including using the Silver Bullet.
The Silver Bullet is when a parent or child makes false allegations of abuse about the other parent. These parents know that as long as they “claim” the other parent is abusing the children, the courts will suspend custody or visitation with the other parent until the claims have been investigated. They also know that the public will pay for the investigations and even if the accusations are unsubstantiated, just the accusation had caused skepticism about the other parent.
The abusive parent uses the suspended custody time to psychologically abuse the children into aligning with their story (if they haven’t already). Abused children are helpless to get away from their abusive situation and will “bond” with an abusive parent because they are afraid of him or her. Sometimes children are afraid that they will be punished if they don’t do what the that parent wants and sometimes children are afraid that the parent will abandon them if they do something that he or she would not like. In either case, Judges consistently read this fear driven connection between the abuser and his or her children as a “healthy bond.” Their mistaken perception is further reinforced by assuming that if a child rejects a parent then that parent must have done something to deserve it.
When abusive parents use their children to lie in court to hurt the other parent and get placement, it wounds all of us; the children, the fit parent, the justice system and society. But, based on the high profile cases of Tsimhoni and Worlfers, it is obvious that very few people understand this type of abusive scenario. The general public have been dangerously misled by the media on both of these cases. The media has only explained the situation from a very superficial level and they generously omit pertinent information and thus have come to the wrong conclusions.
It was hard to accept that mothers could be as heartless and abusive, I use to think that only men could be so cruel and callous as to hurt their own children. But the two high profile cases have proven that women can induce their children to shoot the Silver Bullet, just as easily as a man.